As I was looking outside to enjoy the morning view, my eyes caught a sight of a butterfly trying desperately to escape through the glass door. It flew from left to right, up and down and then went back to the left again. Of course, it was making no progress at all despite all the efforts. The irony is, there was a large opening just a few inches to the right! The opening was darker than the window because it was covered with a blind that were tilted downwards to reduce the sunlight coming in.
A few hours later, I found it lying motionless on the floor. Only if it had ventured a little more to the "darker" side and stay away from the bright, shining window.
I could not help but thinking, "What if we were in the same situation as the butterfly?" All our lives, we may be trying hard to escape through the closed window when the opening was right there. Are all the glitters, shines and bright light good for us? Conversely, is there goodness in the seemingly dark side?
As I think hard, I could come up with a few learning from the poor butterfly.
On the flip side, hard work today will pay off handsomely tomorrow. Small but regular savings will yield a fortune after some time. Submission to God in this life will earn His blessing in the hereafter.
Do you recall a Malay saying that literally translates to “endure the pain now for happiness later”? The butterfly failed to see this and continue to chase the bright light. In the end, it paid the price dearly – with its life!
In the case of the butterfly, it should have at least tried to check the “darker side” out a little bit more. Give both sides the chance to be heard fairly. For parents, when siblings fight, do not take sides without checking the facts. Treat them fairly by listening and understanding. Time and times again, we will be surprised at the findings.
There you have it! I guess the only way to find out the truth is to listen to both sides. Venture out of the obvious and try things differently. Evaluate the good and bad in every situation. Give everyone his or her fair chance to be heard. Only then, no struggles will be in vain.
Teach our kids these valuable lessons too so that they do not end up like the butterfly in the window!
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Zaid Mohamad is a Certified Parental Coach and bestselling author of two parenting books, Smart Parents, Brighter Kids and Smart Parents, Richer Kids. Get free parenting tips and join parenting discussions at www.SmartParents.com.my. Together we can change the world…one kid at a time!
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